Hey ladies! Katie here!
I have been wanting to post about this for a while now, and now that my travels have quieted down I am able to sit and write out my thoughts! Have you ever wondered HOW to start empowering other women, or wanted to jump on the NuShu Sisters train, but just don't know where to start? Well look no further! I, with the help of Jenn (Founder and Visionary for NuShu Sisters, as well as licensed therapist), have come up with a couple ways to help you get along better initially with women. For many women I understand it is hard to trust other women again after being deeply hurt. I also understand that sometimes women can just flat out not be nice (myself included at times!!). My goal is to help enable you to cultivate relationships that carry on when maybe the start was good but life got messy in the process of building a female friendship.
Here are four things you can do to live confidently around other women and live a life that compliments and empowers.
1. Learn to appreciate and admire the beauty
This can be as simple as going for a walk and noticing the beauty of nature all around you, or complimenting your best friend or mom when you notice she's taken a little extra time on her hair that day. When you see a woman, stop yourself (quiet the screaming insecurities inside of you), and appreciate her for who she is, and how she is created. The more you learn to appreciate beauty, the less your insecurities will threaten you when encountering other women.
2. Befriend confident women
I'm not saying that you only friend the ones who come off confident (no one is perfect, and every woman has something unique to offer). However, I am saying that if you notice a woman who gives positive contributions to those around her- become her friend! Become friends with those who are secure in themselves, honest, and gentle. Does she light up a room when she enters? Is she an encourager? Surround yourself with these types of women, and they will soon rub off on you!
3. Benefit of the doubt- give it!
Many times I find myself feeling offended by what another women may or may not say. However, I have recently been trying to give the benefit of the doubt more freely. Not only does this help with the way you feel treated, it will cue other women in on how to treat you. Be quick to assume the best, and they should soon follow suit!
4. Compliment other women
I cannot express this enough! It is so important to compliment other women, as it allows their guards to come down, and make them feel as though you aren't competing with them. It can be complimenting their shoes, their smile, or even the way they did their makeup, whatever it is it will help them feel more accepted by you. This leads to a feeling of trust, that builds and starts great friendships, or even just changes the way they view themselves. Read about the time that I complimented a woman in the grocery store, and the impact it had on her.
I hope this helped you! Female friendships can feel so daunting at times, but taking these things into consideration, one step at a time, will lead you to healthy, positive female friendships that will flourish!